Life is More Fun without Expectations

Last Friday was supposed to be our grand date night. Valentine’s day plans. I was disappointed that I didn’t get the reservations that I desired for us. There was a daddy-daughter dinner that we missed out on and I was feeling upset over it. Nevertheless, Chloe is 5. She doesn’t know much about restaurants and city attractions. I was going to make something happen. Good times were ahead.

Along the way we stopped at Target for a couple of things and pair of new slippers that I told her we would shop for. I wanted to hurry. We needed to get moving. We needed a great night, I had it planned, and time was awasting. Let’s move!

3 minutes into the door Chloe yells: “Dad I want pizza!”

“No baby, we’re going to dinner. We have to get out of here.”

That wasn’t good enough. Our discussion continued for about 5 minutes until her precious eyes looked up at me and griped me with the finger that I’m wrapped on.

It hit me!

Chloe wanted fun. I wanted quantity. Spending more, doing more, exerting more effort………that would mean I accomplished something, right? Mega-wrong!!!

Bad expectations and misinformation can lead to the worst results.

So,How did we spend the night?

We sat in the café. We ate pizza, drank juice, and talked. I sat there like a fool, trying to be a dad.

I listened to my daughter. Her play dog’s name is macho, her friend at school has transferred out 😦 , we should shop for a new cereal (pops and honey nut cherios are not her favorite anymore), and we should sing more while we drive.

Simplicity can really make you smile. It’s not about how much money you have, or don’t have. It’s good to evaluate the expectations we carry around, they’re nothing but thoughts turned chains. They hold us back from enjoying the moment. What counts is being present. Present in the NOW. Not existing, but LIVING in the moment.

  • That means letting go of worry….and embracing a little uncertainty as excitement.
  • Listening rather than assuming
  • Most of all…loving! Love never allows you to waste. Love. I say again…LOVE!

The moment you are in NOW is both a present from God and a stewardship that you will never get back. Take a moment to take in everything around you and….listen! You’ll be surprised what happens.

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7 responses to “Life is More Fun without Expectations

  1. I love this. We want the best for our kids, but sometimes we don’t stop and listen to what they want.I struggle with this too. So glad you did! Sounds like a precious time. You are an amazing father.

  2. Asia

    I agree Jo (about the amazing father part, I don’t have kids yet. :-D). BTW, its about time you admitted that she has you wrapped. LOL. Its a good thing. Who’s finger is better to be wrapped around than a 5 yr old princess. 🙂 Glad you guys had a great time.

  3. Great post Erik. I’m in the process of changing some routines at home to spend more time in “chat mode” with my girl. It is amazing what you learn about them when you stop and take the time. I agree with Jo and Asia, you are an amazing father. To blog about this and be so attentive with your girl…one in a million!

  4. Elaine

    Olá! I loved you post you wrote it with so much love that I could feel it from here! Be the best…best father, son and worshiper! Regards Elaine

  5. Indy

    Excellent post sir, everyone has said it all!

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