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Life is More Fun without Expectations

Last Friday was supposed to be our grand date night. Valentine’s day plans. I was disappointed that I didn’t get the reservations that I desired for us. There was a daddy-daughter dinner that we missed out on and I was feeling upset over it. Nevertheless, Chloe is 5. She doesn’t know much about restaurants and city attractions. I was going to make something happen. Good times were ahead.

Along the way we stopped at Target for a couple of things and pair of new slippers that I told her we would shop for. I wanted to hurry. We needed to get moving. We needed a great night, I had it planned, and time was awasting. Let’s move!

3 minutes into the door Chloe yells: “Dad I want pizza!”

“No baby, we’re going to dinner. We have to get out of here.”

That wasn’t good enough. Our discussion continued for about 5 minutes until her precious eyes looked up at me and griped me with the finger that I’m wrapped on.

It hit me!

Chloe wanted fun. I wanted quantity. Spending more, doing more, exerting more effort………that would mean I accomplished something, right? Mega-wrong!!!

Bad expectations and misinformation can lead to the worst results.

So,How did we spend the night?

We sat in the café. We ate pizza, drank juice, and talked. I sat there like a fool, trying to be a dad.

I listened to my daughter. Her play dog’s name is macho, her friend at school has transferred out 😦 , we should shop for a new cereal (pops and honey nut cherios are not her favorite anymore), and we should sing more while we drive.

Simplicity can really make you smile. It’s not about how much money you have, or don’t have. It’s good to evaluate the expectations we carry around, they’re nothing but thoughts turned chains. They hold us back from enjoying the moment. What counts is being present. Present in the NOW. Not existing, but LIVING in the moment.

  • That means letting go of worry….and embracing a little uncertainty as excitement.
  • Listening rather than assuming
  • Most of all…loving! Love never allows you to waste. Love. I say again…LOVE!

The moment you are in NOW is both a present from God and a stewardship that you will never get back. Take a moment to take in everything around you and….listen! You’ll be surprised what happens.



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Leave the Dead Horse: The Problem of Relevance

Stay relevant!

Whether you are a marketing professional, business owner, Pastor, or a Parent, your success hinges entirely upon your ability to be relevant to your market.

Yes, I classify all of those individuals in the same category as it relates to relevancy. Why do so many youth feel estranged from their parents and experience a disconnect? Well, its not always because kids will be kids…..IT’S BECAUSE YOU ARE BORING AND DON’T LISTEN WELL.

This applies to any individual who is trying to convey a thought, product, or service to someone else. You have to know your target.


Try listening. Ask questions. Appreciate the obvious.

If i can access the yellow pages via the internet why would I pickup the big yellow brick outside of my door. Granted perhaps there are some great arguments for the widespread eco-disaster called ‘delivery of yellow pages’ BUT I have never heard any. The dead horse has been beat, kicked, punched, and fatalitied (mortal kombat!).

Stop what you are doing. Step back. Get creative and look at your market and ask yourself ‘What problems can I solve with my product?’


Pastors– um, there are people who are financially destitute and need basic items such as food and daycare. LIGHTBULB: perhaps, just perhaps, feed them. They just might return on Sunday to say thank you.

Business Owners– How about getting some feedback from the two most ignored people you meet? 1. Your customers (get a yelp account)  and 2. Your employees (have you seen undercover boss?)

Parents– are you afraid of all that could happen to your child in this crazy world? Guess what: They are scared too! Most of the consumerism and peer pressure generated among youth is because they are AFRAID.  I suggest to you something that is very revolutionary and may get you in trouble with other parents but I think it can work…….LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS. I know I know, where did I get such a thought!?? All unusual and stuff but maybe try that over a long period of time, no overnight success, and perhaps you can build and maintain a parental relationship that prepares your kid for the world outside. Tell your children about YOUR fears and what you have been thru. Maybe even share a tale or two of your own misfitism. Build a bridge!

A great man once said: “don’t try to prepare the road for your children, prepare your children for the road.” You can prepare them by being a parent who streamlines their approach to fit the behavior, personality, and needs of their child.

Overall, this isn’t the fixall solution to solve your problems. Your product might just suck 🙂 . My goal here is to stimulate you to think in the direction of ‘Am I in touch with the pulse of those around me?’

To make a ripple at home, church, business, or wherever you have to be sure to target the right ‘waters’, afterall, a pebble dropped on the ground does nothing!

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